Comparison is Pointless

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I'm still working on this myself. I'm still learning. I still compare a lot. But I'm trying to stop. 

I used to compare how I was when I was younger to how my little sister is now at that age. I would compare and try to be trendy, aesthetic, and "catch up." To know all the stuff, to have all the stuff. The right outfits, the right makeup, the right accessories, the right styles. 

I was really upset about the fact that my mom's rules are inconsistent. I had to wait 'till sophomore year when my mom finally lets me use makeup, and now my sister can get it so soon. And I was always left out cuz I wasn't allowed to text my classmates in 8th grade, and my sister's in group chats talking to people she's never met when she's in 7th. I was tired of waiting. Tired of being left behind. 

On the car one afternoon, going to dance class, I finally got the guts to complain to my mom about it. At one point she said something like "If you want to compare and have what everyone else has, you'll never stop asking." 

That made me realize, no matter how hard I try to catch up, no matter how up-to-date I am, no matter what I look, there will always be someone I will compare to- and want more. And there's really nothing wrong with being less trendy, less pretty. I have friends who are less trendy/ girly than I, but way smarter. And wiser. I also have friends who are more trendy/ girly than I, but not necessarily academically smarter. We all have our stronger points and weaker points. And I can't "better" all of them. 

No matter how good I am, there will always be someone better at something. I'll be stuck in a never-ending loop of chasing, comparing, and wanting. I should accept that it is ok to be different. It is ok to be less. And I can be happy and awesome anyway. 

So, in conclusion, to all those girls (and guys too) comparing themselves to other people on social media and the popular kids at school, stop it, put the phone away. No one said you have to be pretty, trendy, or popular to be enough. It's not encoded in the universe, and there's no law for it. It doesn't define you. All those people you see on social media, those popular kids at school, probably have someone they're comparing to too, some image they're trying to achieve. There will always be someone better at something than you. And that's ok. You are beautiful and loved despite your flaws and weaknesses. Because that's what makes us human, right? 

So put down your phone, stop that comparing, and love yourself for the way you are created. 

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